4 things during the first year of motherhood

I did not wait until my first year of motherhood was here to learn. Instead, I found myself researching everything that awaited me and picking up every parenting book I came across during my visits to the clinic.

pregnancy and baby name book

Not only that, but I could ask as many questions as I wanted during those clinic visits.

Do you think that I was well prepared? Maybe, but more or less.

I would say that you need the experience to know how they are for some things in life!

Now it’s been a year and a half since I got my beautiful Synnøve, and I can tell you that it’s been a journey.

A lot had happened in that first year before she learned to say goodbye and hi.

I have smiled, cried, and felt helpless at times.

Please note that I’m not saying it was the worst, but I’m keeping it real by saying there were times when it felt like the most extended year ever!

All in all, I enjoyed and carried with me every single moment we had that year.

That being said, I learned a few things that I want to share with you. Hopefully, they can inspire some new moms out there.

Related: 5 motherhood life lessons I have learned since I became a mom

lessons learned during the first year of motherhood

Note: I’m by no means saying I have seen it all, but remember that every trip is an experience. Whether a day, a month or even a year.

You are the best mother for your child

We often “prepare” for something, thinking it will be easy and perfect.

But when it comes to motherhood, I can attest that this isn’t the case.

Here’s why.

Babies are different, homes are, and cultures can be different.

You may want to parent the way you read about it somewhere, but you find that very difficult, which frustrates you.

Dear Mom, take it easy and do it yourself. I’ll repeat it: as long as you do not leave your baby hungry or relatively unsupervised, you are doing very well. You are the best mother for your child.

It takes time

No one was born knowing how to do anything.

We all have a path of learning, practicing, and getting better ahead of us.

Therefore, anything you struggle with at the beginning of your new lifestyle is just a matter of time, and you’ll get used to it over time.

Learn what to accept and what to ignore

People love to give advice. And there’s nothing wrong with that (I do too).

But, on the other hand, ask yourself, is this helping me, or is it just making me feel like a bad mom.

There’s nothing worse than leaving a new mom feeling bad and feeling like she’s not doing the right thing.

I have been there, too. I ran into another mom when my daughter was just five months old, and she pressured me to let my baby sleep in her bed and let her put herself to sleep. Sad enough that I had to cut ties and say BYE FOREVER.

I love learning and hearing about others’ experiences, but it depends on how we give that advice.

Pay attention to the tone of voice and the words said during the advice.

I do not know if it’s just me, but I’m a real believer in the baby being fussy; put them down (either snuggle or sing a lullaby) and help them fall asleep, but do not say “they’ll cry until they fall asleep.”

So, I’d say it’s up to you to understand which advice will hurt you or help you walk the beautiful journey of motherhood.

A baby changes the relationship

We may have all heard that couples fight a lot after having a baby.

I wouldn’t necessarily use the word “fight,” but the fact is that things change.

Remember that you now have a new person and responsibilities that we mothers pay attention to, and sometimes we forget that our partners need us.

In such a situation, you’ll find that there will be some conflicts during the first year of motherhood as you try to adjust and find a balance.

But with a bit of effort, anything is possible. Take time for each other, communicate with each other, and try to understand each other.

You’ll find that the few minutes you spend cuddling with your partner or doing something else together while the baby is sleeping make a difference.

These were just a few points I learned in my first year of motherhood. I hope you enjoyed reading and found them helpful.

Do you have anything to add or anything you learned as well? Just leave a comment below.

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